My Approach

My work grows out of the Tavistock Relationships tradition in the UK, where the inner life of the couple is treated with as much care as the inner life of the individual. A central idea is the “couple state of mind”: a way of thinking and feeling together that allows each partner to hold the other in mind, even when emotions run high. It is the shift from defending oneself to discovering one another.

In our conversations, we explore how the past lives inside the present; how longing, fear, hope, and old disappointments shape the ways you reach for each other—or turn away. We look gently at the places where closeness breaks down: the difficulty of intimacy, the fear of being too much or not enough, the places where desire fades or returns in unexpected ways.

Life brings its own pressures to every relationship. Aging parents, the demands of children, the widening distance of time. Some couples come after an affair has fractured trust; others arrive carrying the heavy stone of bereavement. And there are couples who come with the deepest loss imaginable—the loss of a child—trying to survive a grief that has altered the very ground beneath them.

All of this has a place in the room.

What We Work Toward

Couples often come to therapy feeling alone together—longing for one another but unsure how to cross the distance. Little by little, we make space for honesty and curiosity. We soften what has become rigid. We begin to hear not only the words but the longing beneath them.

The aim is not to erase conflict or sorrow, but to create a relationship where both partners feel met—emotionally, physically, imaginatively. Where intimacy can deepen again. Where difference can be borne without fear. Where the couple can rediscover a way of turning toward one another, even in moments of doubt.

Together, we imagine the couple you are becoming: the quality of presence you want to offer each other, the way you hope to weather storms, the kind of love that can grow with age, with experience, and even with grief.

Who I Work With

I meet with couples at many stages of life and love—those just beginning, those preparing for marriage, couples in long-term partnerships, and those navigating the complexities of blended or interfaith families. I work with heterosexual and LGBTQ+ couples, with partners seeking to repair trust after infidelity, with couples facing the challenges of aging, and with those grieving losses both spoken and unspoken, including the unbearable grief of losing a child.

My hope is to help couples build a relationship that feels intimate, resilient, and alive—one that can breathe with them through the changing seasons of a shared life.